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Here’s an article from Showtimesays’ blog. Ladies, you gon’ learn today. Interesting points…

We all know the phrase that has been said so many times over the years…”When A Womans Fed Up…” So fellas we know that when a woman is fed up, there aint nothing we can do about it, right? But ladies what about when men get fed up. Is it anything that can be done to salvage a situation once a brotha is ready to walk away?

In the early 90′s there was a song called “Lookin’ At The Front Door” by Main Source. One of my favorite lines from that song was when Large Professor said “my friends always tell me how I’m lucky to possess/The best looking girl in the whole U.S./But every time you scream, you blow your finesse/Tryin’ to dis the Profess” So many times when we are looking at other folks relationship we think that everything is going good for them, just because they “look cute together” or because “they never argue”. As you probably already know from your own life experiences, men aren’t like women, if we aren’t satisfied in a relationship, we may not verbalize it publicly like women do. A woman who is not happy will find a way to tell her girlfriends, her mom, her sister, and anybody else who will listen to them if she feels like she is not able to effectively communicate with her mate. A man on the other hand will usually save any public theatrics and keep his thoughts to himself and speak on it at home. Most men have a problem with expressing how they truly feel to their woman when things are going good. So that same lack of communication can come into play when things are going bad. It’s a bad trait that we have. But if we want things to get better, we have to learn to communicate with our women and let them know what we want and what can be done to improve each situation.

Usually, when a man is in a relationship he expects the same thing from his woman that she expects of him…that’s USUALLY. We all want love, kind words, affectionate touches, sex regularly, those moments of affirmation when she makes it known that she won’t be going anywhere because you are the only one that matters. But what happens, when those things start to decrease and the arguments and beef start to increase. Ladies let me tell you a secret that you may not be hip to yet. It don’t take much to keep us happy. For the most part all you gotta do is feed us…f*ck us…and show interest in the things that are interesting to us. If your man like sports, try to sit down and watch a game with him every now and then. If he likes Xbox, then get you a gamer tag and play along with him sometimes. You have to let him know that you can be his homie…lover…and his friend.

Usually it takes a lot to push a man over the edge once he commits himself to a woman. Just speaking from experience, I know that some of the things that can make a man want to give up include but are not limited to; being too needy, being too argumentative, not having any drive or passion to better yourself, being insecure, and just flat out not being the same type of person. I think a lot of time we get fed up due to boredom. It’s easy to get bored with someone who you have been with for a while. ladies, it’s YOUR responsibility to make sure that your man stays excited about being with you, just as it is HIS responsibility to make sure that you are satisfied in every area of the relationship. Sometimes ladies you have to check yourself, because a man won’t always tell you when he is close to a breaking point. The one thing that you don’t want to do is think that no matter what you do he is always going to come back. Just because you have had issues that were resolved in the past does not mean that you can keep doing the same thing and not get kicked to the curb.

Ladies, here are a few things I think you can do to prevent your man from gettin’ fed up.

LET A MAN BE A MAN – I understand that we are in a day and time when women are capable of doing jus as much if not more in life then their man is. But sometimes the best part of being a man, is feeling like a man. When you’re walking into a store, let him hold the door for you. When it’s time to pick out what movie and go to dinner you are going to see give him the opportunity to make the reservations and get the tickets. Those are just some of the small things that can sometimes make a big difference.

DON’T BE TOO NEEDY OR CLINGY- Now this may be a little tricky for some women. Because even though you should let a man be a man, you still need to have your own sense of independence. Unless your man is one of the men who used to be on Jerry Springer back in the day, men don’t want women who can’t think for themselves. You existed before you and he got together, so you have to make sure you keep that same sense of self dependency that you had before you met him. Sometimes when women get into relationships, and they are really feeling the guy they lose their sense of self. It becomes more about what HE thinks as opposed to what you know is right for you. You don’t have to attach yourself to the man’s hip just for him to care about you. Look for clues, if he isn’t exhibiting the signs of wanting to be around you, and doesn’t seem as enthused about what you have with him then you have a problem….HE’S JUST NOT THAT INTO YOU!!!

DO THE SAME THINGS YOU DID TO GET HIM AFTER YOU’VE GOTTEN HIM – Now this is one of the biggest reasons that guys get fed up. Women will do things in the beginning of the relationship, and once they get comfortable it’s a wrap. So many times I hear brothas say that their woman used to do things like cook, keep a clean house, do fun things with them, and keep then interested in the beginning stages only to turn into a totally different person as time goes on. Ladies you gotta keep it consistent. And if you don’t keep it consistent, you need to find a way to compensate for the areas that you have fallen off. You put in all of that hard work in the beginning, don’t let it go to waste just because you don’t think you have enough time or energy to dedicate to keeping your man happy.

DON’T TALK…JUST LISTEN – You know I’m really big on open and honest communication. IF something is going wrong then you both need to work together to resolve the problem. But like a wise person told me, you can’t listen and talk at the same time. If you have a man who isn’t very vocal but you can tell that things aren’t right, you have to find a way to engage him in the conversation. If and when he does finally start to talk and express certain things, listen to what he says and learn from it. Once you have at least attempted to grasp what he is saying, then let him know you want and desire out of the situation and how it can be better. There isn’t one problem that can’t be resolved if the two parties are willing to sit down, talk to each other, and just spend time LISTENING.

Women think that when a man is fed up that the first thing that he is going to think about doing is cheating. That’s not always the case. Sometimes a man can be fed up and still love you enough to stick around. But you have to ask yourself, how long is he going to stick around being miserable, and what can I do to make the situation better?

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Below are some quotes from the interview, as well as the audio:

On walking the red carpet with a Pope look-alike: “The religious figure is there because he was called on by Roman’s mom to rehabilitate him.”

On her performance of “Roman Holiday”: “I had this vision for him to be sort of exorcised — or actually he never gets exorcised—but people around him tell him he’s not good enough because he’s not normal, he’s not blending in with the average Joe. And so his mother is scared and the people around him are afraid because they’ve never seen anything like him. He wanted to show that not only is he amazing and he’s sure of himself and confident, but he’s never gonna change, he’s never gonna be exorcised. Even when they throw the holy water on him, he still rises above.”

On creating the Roman mini-movie with Hype Williams: “I wanted to create a movie. I reached out to a great friend of mine, Hype Williams, to create the movie. I just wanted him to be in this monastery and I wanted to see him in his comfort zone. It’s funny because it’s the most comfortable I’ve been on stage in my entire life.”

On why she chose “Roman Holiday” for the Grammys: “The Grammys chose ‘Roman Holiday.’ The producers of the Grammys came to the studio and I played them ‘Roman Holiday,’ and I could not play them another record after they heard that. They went crazy. I could have chosen to do a no-brainer pop song, but I can’t do it anymore. I have to stay true to what I’m doing.”

The Jumpoff TV crew discusses how Pittsburgh rap star Wiz Khalifa made it onto the Forbes Hip Hop Cash Kings list this year at the No. 11 spot without any major artist co-sign. Among the points made is that Wiz has been on a steady independent grind for about 6 or 7 years and turned down record deal from Rick Ross and an offer to tour from Drake earlier in his career. Check out the list below and watch the debaters break down how Wiz achieved cash king status.

Forbes Hip Hop Cash Kings List 2011:

1. Jay-Z — $37 Million

2. Diddy — $35 Million

3. Kanye West — $16 Million

4. Lil Wayne​ and Birdman — $15 Million

6. Eminem, Snoop Dogg & Dr. Dre — $14 Million

9. Akon — $13 Million 10. Ludacris — $12 Million

11. Wiz Khalifa & Drake — $11 Million

13. Pharrrell — $10 Million

14. Timbaland — $7 Million

15. Swizz Beatz & Nicki Minaj — $6.5 Million

17. Rick Ross, Pitbull & 50 Cent — $6 Million

20. T-Pain & B.o.B — $5 Million

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Here’s a new debate and possibly the most interesting/important one from the Jumpoff TV crew. The debate concerns Watch The Throne’s long-term affect on hip-hop and album marketing strategies as well as the albums content which is being dubbed “Luxury Rap.”

Probably one of the best debates/convos we’ve had as a crew. Today’s discussion revolves around the release, the production and the effect of Watch The Throne has had on the game thus far. Will other artists follow suit? Will labels find more intricate ways to release LPs? For the second half of the debate, we discuss the “Luxury Rap” elephant in the room when it comes to Watch The Throne? Are you tired of it? Oh you are? Turn the shit off. I ain’t rich, but I ain’t mad either lol. Sidebar: 03:21-4:37 is FUCKERY at its finest. NO PAUSE lol.

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With yesterday marking Game’s release of his fourth studio LP, The R.E.D. Album, the Compton emcee listed his top 25 personal favorite albums of all-time for Complex. Here’s what he had to say about Dr. Dre’s The Chronic followed by his complete list.

You know how I want my list to look? The Chronic got to be by itself with no number, and then the list starts. The Chronic was just an incredible album, man. It was so well put together. It was actually more of a fucking Snoop album. Snoop was on every song on The Chronic and shit. It was like Snoop’s introduction to the world. – Game

00 Dr. Dre – The Chronic

25 Jay Rock – Follow Me Home
24 The Game – Doctor’s Advocate
23 De La Soul – Buhloone Mind State
22 DMX – Flesh of My Flesh, Blood of My Blood
21 Jadakiss – Kiss Tha Game Goodbye
20 2Pac – Strictly 4 My N.I.G.G.A.Z.
19 EPMD – Unfinished Business
18 DJ Quik – Way 2 Fonky
17 The Lauryn Hill – The Miseducation Of…
16 Nas – Stillmatic
15 OutKast – Aquemini
14 Ice Cube – AmeriKKKa’s Most Wanted
13 Geto Boys – The Resurrection
12 The D.O.C. – No One Can Do It Better
11 Ghostfacedestroyah – Supreme Clientele
10 LL Cool J – Mama Said Knock You Out
09 Run-D.M.C. – Raising Hell
08 Jay-Z – Reasonable Doubt
07 The Game – The Documentary
06 The Notorious B.I.G. – Ready to Die
05 Nas – Illmatic
04 Eminem – The Slim Shady LP
03 2Pac – All Eyez On Me
02 Snoop Dogg – Doggystyle
01 N.W.A. – Straight Outta Compton

What do you think of Game’s list? Naturally, his choices reflect a heavy West Coast influence but even being from NY I agree with a lot of this list.

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The JumpoffTV crew debates whether or not Young Jeezy can make a viable comeback to the top of the rap game with his new album TM 103: Hustlerz Ambition, which drops September 20th.

With Jay-Z and Kanye West’s Watch The Throne just over the horizon, The Well Versed decided to compile a list of what they believe to be the 10 greatest collaborative hip-hop albums of all time. Lists like these are definitely tough to tackle and can lead to heated debate when involving multiple hip-hop heads people. So did your favorite collaborative LP make the list? Find out HERE.

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A few voices versed in our our culture (hip-hop) discuss how they would go about reinventing veteran rapper Beanie Sigel and his dwindling career. Don’t get me wrong, Beanie has always been ill in my book, but talk like this just proves that things just ain’t the same for Broad St. bullies nowadays.

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On April 11, 2006, Proof was killed by a gunshot wound to the chest at the CCC Club by club bouncer Mario Etheridge on 8 Mile Road in Detroit, Michigan after fatally shooting Keith Bender, Jr.

While playing a game of pool, Proof and Bender got into a heated argument. After a physical altercation, Etheridge fired his gun into the air to try and stop the situation, but Proof shot Bender in the head. Etheridge, who was Bender’s cousin, then shot Proof three times in the head and chest. Proof was killed, and Bender died a week later. Proof’s blood alcohol content at the time of his death was 0.32 percent, four times the level that qualifies someone for a drunken driving conviction; he had no other drugs in his system. Bender’s family began a wrongful death suit against Proof’s estate. Etheridge was held by authorities to have been acting in lawful defense of another man; however, he was found guilty of carrying a concealed weapon and discharging a firearm inside a building.

In 2007, Proof’s mother, Pepper Holton created the Proof Foundation in his memory. The Proof Foundation is a Michigan based non-profit organization formed to honor and preserve the legacy of Deshaun “Proof” Holton through the promotion of music and arts education by providing scholarships to low income children from single parent households. Eminem made two songs about Proof’s death on his album “Recovery” titled “Going Through Changes” and “You’re Never Over”, and mentions him in several songs on Relapse

That is just some of the background of what happen five years ago today, But today we will not mourn but instead celebrate the Big homies life. #RIPBIGProof